When it comes to the subject of love, Masiandia often tells people, “Don’t focus on getting love or even giving it, but rather be opened from within so that you can be filled with Source energy, which you then pour out into all areas of your life.”
First, Take Care of Yourself
In one of my workshops, a participant wanted to know how she could interact with the people in her life that are negative towards her when she is loving towards them.
It’s easy to think that when we take care of others, they should take care of us; if we’re generous, friendly and outgoing, then so should they. That seems fair.
But in truth, the greatest gift we can give others is to take care of ourselves, set boundaries and say “no”.
Then there is a greater chance for reciprocity.
First, be friendly towards yourself – take care of your own needs.
Love is not an outpouring; it’s about being full to overflowing. In love we’re not emptying ourselves; we’re sharing our love by first giving to ourselves. We must be full to give.
“There is no place in the world that is more peaceful and fulfilling than the beginning of a life-long romance with yourself, where you engage with all of your trust and devotion with the sanctity of your spiritual being in everything you do and think, and share, and express with the totality of who you really are.
“You are not your fear! You are not the anxious worry that becomes locked in what other people think of you or what you think of them; you are free agents that can lift the world to greater heights by your own expansion – your love that begins with you.
“No matter how much I protest, I am totally responsible for everything that happens to me” ~ Seida Desilet
“You are responsible for yourself. If you do not honour yourself, you do not honour others. If you focus on what you can get from others, you neglect what is truly important – you.
“Imagine being in a partnership with yourself. To be loved by another, one must love oneself. This is the law of attraction. If you do not completely love yourself it is because you don’t want to, because you believe you don’t deserve love. The truth is you are loved.
“Please consider that every time you prepare a meal for yourself, you are taking care of your needs, and that is loving. Every time that you set out to meet a deadline, you are valuing your need for punctuality and care. When you crease worrying about the deadline and instead acknowledge your intent, you align yourself with an in-depth sense of self-value, and that is truly loving.
“Make every challenge in your life an excuse to remember to love yourself.
“When you remember that you are loved shame dissolves, self-criticism and insecurities release because you remember that you are loved.
“However, we are not here to teach you how to love yourselves.
“We are here to help you realize that you are already loved. Your own higher selves, spirit guides, the source of all life – the great Universe, love you. You are loved by your connection to the Universe. Therefore you are worthy of love because you are loved, and you are loved for no reason other than that is divine order.”
Do you feel lonely for love, and struggle with insecurity?
Do you have a desire to be cared for and to know yourself?
Feature image by Bart LaRue