You release emotional wounds from your childhood by listening, empathizing, being receptive and ultimately holding…
As we transition into a New Year, it can be a time for new beginnings – a time for dreaming. I’m hearing a lot of people declare their enthusiasm for a special and fulfilling year to come, with strong aspirations towards what they want in life.
In her blog article: Begin Anew, Pam Weidenhammer has a unique approach that I find refreshing. She likes to bring in the New Year by thinking about what she might like to accomplish in 2018, but without attachment or resolve to succeed. She likes to take a gentle approach that allows her dreams and aspirations to flow freely with a playful sense of imagination. Her intention is to find ways to feed the mind and nourish the Soul.
What better way to nourish the Soul then to free it from conditioned patterns.
From my healing perspective, I see that aspirations require the willingness to let go of the past: disappointment, disbelief and patterns that impede our natural progress and evolution. In this way, we engage with our present life wholeheartedly, rather than repeat the old patterns.
First you need to recognize the patterns that you inherited. Then you’re free to support your true expression.
We inherit physical and personality traits, talents and strengths, as well as limiting patterns and ailments from our ancestors.
Our mothers and fathers, and their mothers and fathers, and their forgotten memories, act as untold stories that hold a deep sense of personal identity and overshadowing energies, which inevitably influences our families and our sense of who we are.
“According to the new insights of behavioural epigenetics, traumatic experiences in our past, or in our recent ancestors’ past, leave molecular scars adhering to our DNA”, and are passed down from parent to child, one generation after the next.” … “Our experiences, and those of our forebears, are never gone, even if they have been forgotten. They become a part of us, a molecular residue holding fast to our genetic scaffolding. … psychological and behavioural tendencies are inherited.” ~ Dan Hurley
I inherited my mother’s beauty, sensuality, innocence and childlike playfulness, as well as her healing gift and the pain she carried with her own childhood trauma. I inherited her depression, despair and insecurities.
My father passed down his strong personality, singing voice and creative spirit, and his devotion to the Sacred. He also passed down shame, guilt, fear, fragility, and the feeling of not fitting into this world.
Through both my parent’s genetic blueprints, I was born into a family system that held many secrets, regrets and denial. All of which has had a tremendous effect on my well-being, my health and relationships. It has been my devotion to spirit and my dedication to the healing path that has allowed me to consciously choose who I truly am, not continuously react out of my genetic blueprint.
The people who work with me have such a devotion to their own truth; they break free from the confining structures of their conditioned beliefs and connect with their own voice and spiritual integrity. It’s an honour that I never cease to marvel at. How fortunate I am to be given my clients’ trust and commitment to their healing and spiritual life.
Being true to yourself is a choice that requires dedication, honesty and receptivity.
Being true to yourself means slowing down enough to question where a pattern originates, and then choosing to let it go.
You might want to ask yourself, “Does this pattern belong to me now as an adult or to me as a child? Was this my mother’s tendency? How would my father have behaved in this situation? How do I choose to behave?
So many of our behaviours are reactions and repetitive patterns. We either repeat what we felt or saw as children. So many people don’t realize that they have the power to make a different choice – a more life-affirming, conscious and mature choice that changes everything.
Conscious choice brings new clarity to our communication, how we perceive reality and in how we experience our lives.
Remember, you have free will. You can open yourself to Spirit and let your true nature shine through you.
You are so much more than your genetic blueprint
Excerpt from my book: Mystical Intimacy
Masiandia: “Your lineage is only a reflection of your soul at birth; it is not the full expression of your soul-purpose or its evolution. This means that while you are woven into your family’s genealogy at birth, you only maintain that ancestral enmeshment until you grow beyond it. This growth is initiated by the desire to know yourself, and it starts with self-awareness.
“The soul incarnates within families, demographics and time-frames that pertain to the soul’s purpose. Once the soul has incarnated within its intended blueprint, it must evolve beyond karmic family ties to express the whole vibration of its purpose.
“This doesn’t mean that family ties have no bearing on your life path. Quite the contrary, the family you are born into provides your soul with the framework it needs for human embodiment, supporting all that you are here to learn and share in order to evolve.
“You are not here to ‘repeat’ family patterns such as with addiction, or carry on genetic illnesses, or perpetuate conditioned responses to stress such as with constant worry, negligence and even violent outbreaks. You are here to grow beyond these conditions and behaviours, to evolve not only your own soul but also your family lineage, in order to cease passing on to newer generations the unbalanced and afflicted energies of your genetic imprint.”
Mystical Intimacy is available in print and e-book at Amazon.com
And in print at Banyen Books.
Featured photo by Anja