Revising our perception of the past is essential to healing the inner child. Otherwise, we…
Spirit Longs to Be Free
It necessitates the desire to be authentic and receptive to your positive and negative traits, rather than shut parts of you out.
In this way, there is nothing to hide. Instead, there is self-expression and self-knowing, accountability and release.
Spirit doesn’t thrive in a body that adheres to rules made in the past or by one’s conditioned upbringing.
Many of us grew up in environments that shamed our needs. Becoming aware of those needs now is essential.
With awareness, you become a safe harbour for those needs to come home to, no matter where you are and with whom you share your life.
Freeing your spirit also demands that you dispel the myth that life, relationships and healing should be easy.
Life, relationships, and healing should not be easy or comfortable, because they’re not.
If your rule for relationships is based on the belief that they should be easy, then you miss out on the potential for real sharing and interpersonal growth.
Similarly, if your rule in working with a coach, counsellor, healer or teacher is set on always having to be comfortable, then you limit the scope of the healing.
I don’t see comfort as an accurate measurement of transformation or well-being.
When it comes to personal and therapeutic relationships, we want to feel safe, which we mistake with having to be comfortable.
Thus, we quickly lose faith if life isn’t producing the positive feeling we want in the manner we expect.
But life cannot produce instant reward; it isn’t designed to make us comfortable. Life is a catalyst for spiritual growth, learning and true love.
Humankind can be so fickle. We demand guarantees and stop at the entrance to love to weighs its odds.
We protect our hearts to the point of freezing our emotions and vitality. We get sick. We lose energy. Still, we want the outer world to adapt to our needs, our fears, and our expectations.
It’s important to realize that this limited way of interacting with life comes from the wounded inner-child that expects to be taken care of by external situations.
The truth is, our emotional, mental, and spiritual maturity depends on learning to differentiate between our needs, expectations, and the reality we live in. Then we cease spending so much of our energy defending the image of who we think we should be and in how people perceive us.
“Most of us grow up believing that we are not good enough just being ourselves, so we try desperately to live up to a self-created image of how we should be.
– Eva Pierrakos & the Guides
Healing and love have nothing to do with upholding a personified image of oneself, or with feeling contented, but rather exalt in the potential growth that exists in each encounter.
Healing and love occur in the synergy of balance between our sense of self and how others perceive us.
When we defend our personified image we too quickly deflect the observations that others offer us. We don’t want to be seen as weak, uncertain, or provoked in any way. We want absolute control over our reality, except that this is a fallacy. We can’t control our reality, no matter how much we try.
It is important to discover on what assumptions you have created your own idolized image and how it has caused distress and frustration in your life. You will find that it has achieved the exact opposite of what you hoped it would. The discovery may be painful, but will allow you to reconciliate the way you are presenting yourself to the world and help you become your true, relaxed self.
– Eva Pierrakos & the Guides
The key to transformational healing or real love is about becoming a welcoming presence for all that shows up in life – the positive and the negative.
If you expect your beloved, friend, family member, or healer to uphold only a positive image of you, then you are limiting life’s broader potential.
True love and support have their foundations in your soul’s longing for growth, and in how your life is pushing and pulling you to evolve and awaken you to who you truly are.
As a healer, I am here to honour the higher calling, not assume the responsibility for making people feel unquestioned and unchallenged.
Truthfully, I believe that discomfort is a potent state of transformation. It’s a sign that your holding patterns are dissolving. One must rest in this disorientation, rather than fight for control.
We all tend to rely on our old coping mechanisms, except that they don’t work. They make us ill, separate, alone and lonely.
Healing the in-depth feeling of isolation requires letting go of control.
Self-protection is not the same as self-love. The need to be safeguarded from harm’s way is not the same as faith and surrender into love’s embrace. We can’t be open to healing and equally closed off from love.
My prayer for you is that you fall in love with all of you.
Find out more about the power of love in Mystical Intimacy,
a book on embodied divinity.
Feature image by JR Korpa