Overcoming spiritual misconceptions
There are many well intentioned spiritual people that unconsciously take shortcuts, such as a spiritual teacher that told someone I know that her issue with her family was just an illusion – a fabrication of her mind. She had taken a bold stance with a family member and it had felt to her that she was being guided from within. It was an act of bravery that the teacher told her wasn’t real.
Unfortunately, this kind of “teaching” is a form detachment and oppression of emotions that can be very confusing for people, giving them the wrong impression that to feel negative emotions and to be assertive is not spiritually evolved.
As a healer and therapeutic counsellor, I can’t help but wonder if the teacher was uncomfortable with the woman’s pain, or if he was just not skilled in helping her process her feelings and personal needs.
Spiritual shortcuts include overemphasis on the positive, anger-phobia, being overly tolerant, and having weak boundaries and judgments towards negativity, as described in the book, Spiritual Bypassing by Robert Augustus Masters.
Masters writes, “It is so easy to get negative about negativity, turning away from our pain and whatever reminds us that not all is well, regardless of our beliefs to the contrary. Turning towards our pain is an act of radical caring – and not just caring for ourselves. … In turning towards our pain, both on a personal and collective level …. our compassion for others deepens and widens.”
Delusions of being more spiritual evolved
Masters also refers to “delusions of arriving at a higher level of spiritual being” as a predominant form of spiritual bypassing, and confronts the misconception that we should be above and beyond human conditioning, that somehow we should never take things personally or be upset by other people’s actions, or that whatever bothers us about someone is about us.
By questioning these prevalent spiritual beliefs, we may realize that we should take some things personally because some things are personal, and that whatever bothers us about someone may have nothing to do with us, except to bring about our refusal to put up with it. Taking things personally may actually be a signal from within that indicates that our boundaries are being crossed, and being honest about what bothers us can help us set clear limits and define for ourselves what we truly need and want in our lives.
Forget About Enlightenment
by John Welwood
“Forget about enlightenment.
Sit down wherever you are and listen to the wind that is singing in your veins.
Feel the love, the longing, and the fear in your bones.
Open your heart to who you are,
not who you would like to be.
Not the saint you’re striving to become.
But the being right here before you,
inside you, around you.
All of you is holy.
You’re already more and less than whatever you can know.
Breathe out, touch in, let go.”
Now is the perfect time to arrive where you are
Masiandia: “If not now, when? … Now is the perfect time to arrive where you are and completely enjoy it, even if where you are is uncomfortable, and especially if it challenges you. Show up more!
“Now is the perfect time to get mad, be ugly, make a mistake, piss someone off, laugh, forgive, stand up for yourself and be kind simultaneously. That’s like rubbing your head and your tummy and singing, and jumping up and down all at the same time. If you feel silly, it’s because you are. Enjoy, it’s so much fun being human, or have you forgotten that you’re innocent and beautiful?
“Now is a wonderful time to cease shaming yourself for being human, and welcome being uniquely you, welcome your divinity, welcome what is sacred in each and every moment. Again, enjoy, you’re worth it.
“Now is a fantastic time for celebrating your magnificence, even if that comes from merely the act of getting out of bed and brushing your teeth. Enjoy a bright smile.
“Seriously, we highly recommend enjoying it all: the sad, the happy, the mad as hell, the anxious, the intolerant, the fatigue, the pain, the exhilaration – it’s all divine. Please don’t miss out on the absolute wonderment of being in flesh and bone, feelings and senses. Human embodiment is worth your undivided attention in order for you to recognize the depth of spirit that is in everything.
“Live well, live whole, live abundantly. Be a receiver of God’s will and be filled to overflowing with love and delight to transform suffering into peace.
“Be at peace with all your experiences, even your feeling of not being at peace. That too deserves your peace.
Everything can be truly welcomed, cherished and dissolved over and over again into deep harmony.”
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